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My Buddy Keith

I can’t remember when I first met Keith Timm Jr.  It was likely as a kid at one of the Coal Miners’ picnics typically held at Lake Retreat. They were the highlight of our summers.  Free pop and ice cream, foot races for money, penny hunts, swimming, the Russian horse, baseball games, and watching coal miners and truck drivers drink too much.

And then there’s the vague memory of Keith, waiting for the bus at Enumclaw Jr. High (he was five years older than me) barking, “Hey! Aren’t you a Kombol?”

But we really got to know each other in the early 1980s when I took over as Manager of Palmer and hired Keith.  He began on the picking table, the usual starting job at a coal mine.  At the same time, cousin, Bob Morris was racing boats down the Cedar River, so Keith and I became his crew.  Hanging out together we soon became fast friends.  Maybe it was just driving around together in a pickup truck.  Anyone who rode around with Keith became his friend.

Keith Timm Jr., Rob Krause, Bob Morris, and Bill Kombol, the River Hawk team and boat crew during Cedar River boat races, circa 1980.

A few years later Keith told me he needed a place to stay.  He’d been living with his Mom and stepfather at their Black Diamond home.  Day after day, Keith complained about how much he detested his step-father, Ray. I don’t know the exact circumstances – some say Ray hit Keith’s Mom, Lorraine.  Whatever the cause, Keith proceeded to beat the crap out of Ray.  When the Black Diamond Police arrived they dispensed justice the “old-fashioned” way.  They told Keith to get out of town for a while.

Back then Lake Sawyer wasn’t part of town, so Keith asked if he could move in with Mom and me.  Soon Keith had a new home, but more importantly, someone to wash his clothes and fix his meals.  Several weeks into his stay, Mom asked me, “How do you think things are going?”  I said, “Pretty good, Keith seems fine.”  She replied, “There’s only one thing I can’t figure out – why is my toothbrush always wet?”  “So is mine!” I added.  Mom promptly bought new toothbrushes for all and wrote Keith’s name on his.

Keith Timm, Jr. and Governor Booth Gardner at the Black Diamond Museum, Nov. 1, 1985.

Keith was very proud of his sobriety.  He was an avid A.A. man and could tell you to the day how long he’d been sober.  I was still drinking back. One Friday night we went to a hockey game.  I got pretty drunk and Keith had to drive me home then put me to bed.  For the rest ofmy life, he never let me forget that night.  In time I realized Keith’s wisdom, so joined him in temperance. For me, it’s been 32 years, 21 days.  It was the second-best decision I’ve ever made and if it wasn’t for Keith I may not have made my best.

St. Patrick’s Day, 1985Gary Grant, our King County Councilman was running for re-election and held a fundraiser at the Lake Sawyer Community Club.  I asked Keith to be my date.  He was reluctant until I told him there’d be free food and pretty girls.

So we tooled over in my pickup and sure enough a pretty girl checked us in. We sat down and ate some food.  But, I couldn’t take my eyes off the girl at the welcome table.  She looked fairly young.  Being the suave guy I was, I wouldn’t dream of walking up and asking her age.  So, I had Keith do it for me.

Keith plops out of his seat, lumbers over to her table, and bluntly asks, “How old are you?” With answer in hand, Keith shuffles back and tells me.  Well, one political fundraiser led to another, and that to a Fourth of July party, a Volleyball game, and a burning boat.  Four years later I asked this pretty girl named Jennifer to marry me.  It was the best decision I ever made.  And, still happy she didn’t take a fancy to Keith.

Jennifer Grant and Keith Timm Jr. at Cedar River Boat Race day, June 1986.

In 1983, I was best man at Keith’s wedding to Kimberly Vaughan, a small affair in her parents’ home in Burien.  The marriage didn’t survive, but Keith was unfazed and confessed, “It sure was fun while it lasted.”  At times he drove me crazy.  But, like a boomerang, Keith always bounced back usually with a smirk on his face.  I’d ask, “What are you grinning about?”  He’d snicker as his smile grew wider.

Keith smiling broadly in the Palmer Coking Coal mine office after a full day on the picking table, Dec. 1984.  It was a dirty job, but Keith was never afraid of getting dirty.

Keith was famous for borrowing $2 for this or $5 for that, and usually paid you back . . . that is, if you reminded him time and again.  For those of you who haven’t been repaid, we’ve filled this glass bowl with dollar bills.  If Keith still owes you any money, now is your last chance to settle that debt.

There are so many more fond memories of Keith – like the time we toured the art galleries of Pioneer Square accompanied by a certified art snob – Keith in his stained overalls and plaid shirt surrounded by urbane Seattleites in snappy blazers and fashionable frocks.  Or the time I asked him to join me for dinner and a Mariner game at Safeco Field.  “Where do you want to eat?” I asked.  Without missing a beat, Keith replied, “The Metropolitan Grill” (the most expensive steak house in Seattle).  “I’m not taking you to the Metropolitan Grill,” I snarled, “I don’t even take my wife there.” We went to the ball game and out to dinner, but not to the Metropolitan Grill.

Keith kept the ticket stub to our Mariner game. I found it when cleaning out his trailer.

Or how about Keith at Alcoholics Anonymous?  He’d normally attended meetings in Grange halls or church basements, but in time grew more adventuresome.  Like when he started attending nude A.A. meetings held at a Jacuzzi in Bellevue of all places.  Now, that’s a picture to wrap your brain about. “Hello, my name is Keith and I’m an alcoholic” . . . buck-naked in a hot tub.

But, some of my best memories of Keith are just driving around playing old-time music and joining him as we crooned to the stereo. We did it one last time – a few days before he sank into the coma.  Two songs we heard that day are those I chose for his video tribute.

Keith holding my nephew, Carter Grant at our Lake Sawyer home, 2010.  Keith and Carter shared the same birthday, August 6.

We hadn’t seen Keith for a few days which was unusual because he always came by the mine office for something. Shelley Arnold, my secretary of nearly three decades suggested I check up on him.  I drove up to his camp trailer and saw his pickup, so knew he was home.  I banged on the door and yelled his name, then made my way through his collection of everything and found him lying on the bed.

Keith was breathing faintly.  I shook him, but he was unresponsive, so called 911.  The operator took our location and talked me through performing CPR and continued for 10-12 minutes before medics arrived. It wasn’t easy hauling him out of those tight quarters. I followed the aid car to Valley General and checked him into the hospital.

Keith Timm Jr. in coma at Valley General hospital in Renton, May 19, 2017.  Great efforts were made by the hospital staff to save his life.

The doctors and nurses hooked him up to a dozen tubes and devices, but Keith’s days were numbered in single digits.  I knew he wouldn’t mind me taking his picture, and if he recovered would enjoy seeing all the efforts undertaken to save his life.  Oh, what a laugh we would have had over this photo.  And an even bigger laugh when I reported about all the pretty nurses who fawned over him night and day.  Keith’s grin would be sparkling like the morning sun.  Then he was gone.

Keith Byron Timm Jr. was one-of-a-kind and I miss him dearly.  He was my buddy and I was his boss.  We were best friends.

Click on this link for a video of photos set to the songs Keith and I listened to on our last drive-around:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pVPbCXxV0yE

A celebration of his life was held Friday, June 16, 2017 at the Black Diamond Community Center, where I delivered the above eulogy. His obituary and two photos appear below. – Bill Kombol

Obituary:

Keith Byron Timm Jr., a lifetime resident of Black Diamond, died on May 27, 2017, at Valley General Hospital. He was 68.

Keith graduated from Enumclaw High School in 1966.

He was born on Aug. 6, 1948, to Keith Timm and Lorraine Gibson. He grew up in Black Diamond and graduated in 1966 from Enumclaw High School. At the height of the Vietnam War, he enlisted in the U.S. Army and entered boot camp before receiving a medical discharge. He worked in the paint shops at Pacific Car and Foundry for a number of years, before joining Palmer Coking Coal Co. and later Pacific Coast Coal. He was married in 1983 to Kimberly Vaughan for a short time. He was a former member of the Black Diamond Fire Department and a Thursday regular at the Black Diamond Historical Museum. He loved antique trucks and was particularly proud of his 35-plus years of sobriety.

He is survived by his sister, Donna Elaine (Timm) Snow.

Remembrances can be made to the Black Diamond Historical Society, P.O. Box 232, Black Diamond, Wash. 98010.

Keith faithfully attended the Black Diamond Museum each Thursday, where Museum’s official photographer, Bob Dobson snapped this picture one time.  Whenever Keith saw him around town, he’d yell, “Hey Bob, take my picture.”

 

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On May 26, 1985 – I Gave Up Alcohol Forever

On May 26, 1985, I gave up alcohol forever.  I drank my last drink and never looked back.  As a drug, alcohol is a depressant.  Yet, alcohol induces depression in a sly manner – by disguising its psychoactive effects within the soft glow of frivolity.  Life without booze invigorated me. After quitting, many asked why?  My short answer: I’d already seen life saturated with booze – I wanted to experience something new and better and different.  For forty plus years, I have.  It’s the second best decision I ever made.

Allow me to explain.  I had no serious issues with alcohol.  There were no DUIs, no courtroom appearances, no family interventions, no passing out, no automobile accidents, no slobbering drunken episodes.  Sure, there were morning hangovers cured by drinking copious amounts of water to work the poison out. 

Though I sometimes drank alone, it was never to excess.  I enjoyed the camaraderie of friends when imbibing.  Wine accompanied a good meal, just as a cold glass of ale enhanced a steak or sausage.  A night of drinking beer over a card game or sporting event, were times to enjoy. I even pursued finer beverages such as cognac and bourbon.   Sweet drinks were fine for the right occasion.

Keith Hamilton and I serving champagne on the day of my sister, Jeanmarie’s wedding, June 18, 1977

My final night of “feeling no pain” included a couple neighborhood friends during a Saturday evening of merriment fueled by strawberry daiquiris.  Before stumbling home there was talk of getting together for breakfast the next morning.  It was Memorial Day weekend.  I awoke with a hangover, worse than previous but nothing debilitating.  I drank lots of water and went for a jog.  Back then I didn’t take the coffee cure.

Through the day I began thinking about life: where was I bound and towards what purpose.  Life seemed to be going nowhere.  I tried imagining a new age, a new direction to change the story I’d been living.  On previous occasions, I’d given up alcohol for short periods of time; one particular three-month calendar season came to mind. 

Thoughts began to grow.  Memories fancied a youth – those carefree days before alcohol and mind-altering substances.   There stood a fit young adult, filled with vim and vigor, ready to embrace challenges and explore the world.  Instead the bathroom mirror offered a man imprisoned by conventions of social drinking; leaning on alcohol like a cripple on a crutch.  I’d studied drugs and knew alcohol was a depressant, fully interchangeable with barbiturates for those addicted to either.  The logic was inescapable.  This drug known as alcohol – chemically a depressant – was depressing me. 

I decided to change.  My first calculus was to give up drinking for a while, or at least until that damn hangover was over.  The more I thought about possibilities, the more the idea of significant change grew – I would give up alcohol until its impact was fully reckoned.  I’d never know what that life might be, if I never tried it. 

There would be no A.A. meetings for me.  The one meeting I’d been to (as part of a self-awareness class) involved lots of depressing individuals smoking cigarettes at a dumpy Auburn union hall.  There would be no support groups, no grand announcements.  I’d just stop drinking and experience life on the other side of the bottle.  So, I did.

Summer was approaching and opportunities arose for new beginnings.  I started riding my bike again and did more exercising, but nothing terribly radical.  The first big social event of the season was Maple Valley Days in early June . . . for which alcohol was standard issue.  I’d been part of the Cedar River boat races with cousin, Bob Morris several years previous and was friendly with the social circle following the sport.  I saw old friends and when offered a beer politely declined.  Drinking was an expected element of the weekend celebration so declining the proffered libation only heightened attention of the clique.  I answered casually, “Just quitting  for a couple of weeks.  Drying out, you know.” 

Two weeks later I joined my Enumclaw buddies at the monthly incarnation of the DGA (Duffers’ Golf Association).  There I made similar gestures to downplay any importance of “Bill’s not drinking.”  I observed others became uncomfortable if I were no longer part of the drinking fraternity. 

To promote a relaxed atmosphere it was important to have some kind of drink in hand, anything would do.  The best prop I found to be non-alcoholic beer.  It allowed those who thought alcohol de rigueur for group dynamics, to more easily accept that my abstinence violated no rule of group etiquette.   They saw me holding a drink and felt at ease. 

DGA dudes: Tom Noltenmeyer, Jay Carbon, Tom Cerne, Mike Wickre.

The weeks turned to a month and a more formidable test emerged.  Bob was marrying Jill and I would be his best man.  I’d also be part of the close-knit group of friends for the weekend bachelor party.  Eight of us would fly to Reno, rent a van, and tour Lake Tahoe and environs – a four-day, summer bash.  I knew Bob’s friends pretty well from previous Maple Valley socializing much of which involved drinking.  They would be my party-mates during our weekend safari.  Only one of our gang, Keith Timm Jr. was a teetotaler.  Make that two.

In any group setting, every person serves a role.  I could easily take a break from abstinence and join the partying in Reno and Tahoe.  Multiple opportunities to cut loose were available.  Not everyone knew of my new sensibility, so the easy route suggested a reversion to the days of wine and roses. 

But, a better plan was hatched – I would serve as designated driver.  The others could fully enjoy drinking and carousing, all under the capable hand of a sober chauffeur.   I’d safely guide the caravan.  Peer pressure melted like a daiquiri in the Nevada sun.  I became the indispensable cog whose sobriety allowed their intemperance; the driver of the bus who piloted the fun.  They admired my sobriety and I reveled in their esteem.  My avenue of abstinence was beginning to look like a freeway to self-fulfillment.

The summer months stretched towards autumn and fewer people noticed, “Bill isn’t drinking anymore.”  In time my sobriety became a non-event.  Most people who drink pay little attention to those who don’t – they’re too affected to notice the person who doesn’t.  Eventually, I gave up the ruse that teetotalism was a temporary phenomenon.  I would never drink again.  I was happy.  It was the second best decision I ever made.

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I won’t leave you dangling.  About a month after my drinking stopped, I attended a cocktail party at the Smith Tower in downtown Seattle.  It was a political fundraiser for a King County Councilmember from the south end.  His daughter was there.  We shared a pleasant conversation.  She lived on Lake Sawyer.  Yes, she liked volleyball, and planned to play at the annual Fourth of July celebration.  We’d be on opposite teams for the East – West volleyball match.  It was played on the grass court near Mom’s home on the lake.  I’d probably see her there.  She came.  They won. 

When leaving, the motor on her dad’s 10-foot dinghy caught fire.  She jumped into the lake.  Bob, Tom Cerne, and I flipped the boat upside down putting out the fire.  Mom comforted the water-soaked girl up at the lake house.  She called her parents to have someone pick her up.  No one was available . . . though her uncle had seen a fire across the lake.  I gave her a ride home in Terry’s outboard.  I knew I wanted to see her again. 

Jennifer and I at Seafair, Aug. 1985, one of our early group dates.

My mind was no longer clouded by booze.  I was free to pursue the life I needed to live.

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